What If Your Dream Costs More Than You Think?

[I am pleased to host Dorothy Littell Greco today. This post on pursing your God-given dreams is as timely today as when it first appeared at Relevant Magazine’s website three years ago.]

God-given dreams

Thousands of years ago, God gave a series of dreams to a teenage boy.

The young shepherd intuitively understood they predicted his future. He imprudently shared the dreams with his already envious older brothers in a move that demonstrated both his immaturity, as well as his failure to grasp the price he would have to pay to reach what his dream showed.

Unable to tolerate the thought of bowing down to the baby in the family, his brothers sold him as a slave. Their betrayal initiated a baffling 18-year wait to see those dreams come to fruition.

Joseph sold by his brothers into slavery, from "The Coloured Picture Bible for Children", 1900 (source)

Joseph sold by his brothers into slavery, from “The Coloured Picture Bible for Children”, 1900

To some extent, Joseph’s story is our story. While we may lack the gift of prophetic dreams, we have specific hopes and desires for how our lives will unfold. And, like Joseph, we are often incapable of comprehending that the fulfillment of our dreams may look nothing like what we originally imagined.

Based on the content of Joseph’s dreams and how he articulated them to his family, it seems that he interpreted them quite literally and assumed he was destined for success. On the surface, success in ancient Egypt would scarcely resemble what it looks like today: no New York Times best-seller list, no interviews with Ellen DeGeneres or Jimmy Fallon, no viral YouTube posts. However, since mankind’s soul has evolved little over the past several millennia, I don’t think success today feels much different than it did during the Egyptian dynasty.

As we pursue our dreams in the context of following God, our sometimes precious expectations might be obliterated.

Like Joseph, we are tempted to fixate on the culminating moment, imagining the tangible metrics such as respect, notoriety, wealth and the power to affect change. There’s nothing immoral about any of these expectations, and sometimes it does play out this way. But Joseph’s life illustrates that as we pursue our dreams in the context of following God, our sometimes precious expectations might be obliterated.Our reality may not mirror our imaginative dreams for at least two reasons. First, the fulfillment of God-inspired dreams rarely happens without some form of suffering. Richard Rohr writes, “There is always a wounding on our journey with God.” Sometimes they are visible flesh wounds, but more often, the cut is so deep it leaves no external mark.

Joseph’s wounds were many: betrayed by his brothers, sold into slavery, wrongly accused by Potiphar’s wife, jailed and separated from his family for nearly 20 years. Humanity’s ingrained reflex to avoid pain and suffering inclines us to check out or self-medicate, both of which impair our ability to continue toward our dreams.

Additionally, our expectations get dashed because we often assume that our God-inspired dreams are all about us—about our pleasure and our happiness. If we make this mistake, then when our blood inevitably flows, we quickly lose sight of our sacred mission and either abandon the pilgrimage or become embittered, much like Naomi. Her husband and two sons died; she had ample reason to taste a residue of bitterness. When Naomi returned to her homeland, she explains, “I went away full, but the Lord has brought me back empty. The Lord has afflicted me; the Almighty has brought misfortune upon me”(Ruth 1:20-21).

She cannot see beyond her grief to understand the essential role she will play in the redemption of her people. Mid journey, she and Joseph are on the same perplexing trajectory. We don’t have a narrative telling us how Joseph navigated his years of confinement. Did he begin to doubt whether his dreams were actually from God? Did he succumb to despair that he would never be free or see his family again?

God-given dreams don’t turn out the way we like; they turn out the way God plans

We do know Joseph experienced both God’s presence and his favor during this time. Even Potiphar realized “the Lord was with Joseph, giving him success in everything he did.” But it is worth noting receiving God’s favor did not mean Joseph’s sentence was commuted.

Reading between the verses, it seems that Joseph surrendered to his circumstances while holding onto the reality that God was both with him and for him. This allowed him to work unto the Lord in a posture of faith.

When we submit to what is beyond our control or ability to change and do so believing God is both for us and with us, it makes all the difference in how we walk out our days and how we reflect God in the process.


Eventually, Joseph’s brothers dramatically fulfilled his dream. In year two of a famine, the desperate clan walked from Canaan to Egypt, arrived before Joseph (but failed to recognize him), and “bowed before him with their faces to the ground” (Genesis 42:6). After many plot twists and much intrigue, Joseph revealed himself to his family.

Then Joseph could no longer control himself before all his attendants, and he cried out, “Have everyone leave my presence!” So there was no one with Joseph when he made himself known to his brothers. And he wept so loudly that the Egyptians heard him, and Pharaoh’s household heard about it. (Genesis 45:1-2.)

Joseph Weeps, Owen Jones 1869 (Wikipedia)

Joseph Weeps, Owen Jones 1869

This is his denouement—and I don’t think it unfolded according to his earlier script. He does not gloat, nor does he retort, “Hey! Remember that dream I had, the one that made you all so angry? Isn’t it funny how this all worked out?” Instead, Joseph nearly collapses under the weight of his grief and loss.

More often than not, what we hoped for or thought we were promised may confound us. When his brothers knelt before him, I think Joseph must have thought, “I was right! Those dreams were from God!” But being right did not eradicate all of his pain and loss.

Despite his suffering, Joseph gradually understands that his teenage expectations paled in comparison to how God actually deployed him. His awe spills out as he emotionally assures his family, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it all for good. He brought me to this position so I could save the lives of many people” (Genesis 50:20).

Joseph’s life and his unprecedented journey remind us all that God gives us dreams not for simply for our own fulfillment, but so that we can partner with Him to serve and bless the world around us.


dorothy-grecoDorothy Littell Greco writes on how faith is meant to influence everything: from marriage and parenting to environmental stewardship. Her work regularly appears at Today’s Christian Woman, Gifted for Leadership, Relevant Magazine, and many others. Her first book, Making Marriage Beautiful, will be released by David C Cook in Jan of 2017. You can follow her on Facebook (Words & Images by Dorothy Greco) and Twitter.


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4 Responses to What If Your Dream Costs More Than You Think?

  1. Jim Bruner says:

    Thanks for posting this, Tim. Very on the mark for me and my wife.

  2. I’m not sure I’d agree that Naomi is a good example of a person having dreams that are “all about her”; she was a grieving widow and mother and there is certainly nothing strange or surprising about not being able to see beyond one’s grief in the moment. However, I think the article in general is helpful in showing how we can get so caught up in what we think our narrative *should* be, while God’s plans are so much bigger than our perspective. That Genesis 50:20 statement is so powerful! Thanks for sharing this today, Tim, and thanks Dorothy for these reflections.

    • dorothygreco says:

      I see your point about Naomi. it’s not the grief that that was the expectation but that she went away to a foreign land expecting something very different than what happened. I obviously did not write this section clearly enough!

  3. Tim says:

    “I don’t think it unfolded according to his earlier script.” That rings true for my experiences and expectations as well, Dorothy. Thanks for allowing me to run this post here today.

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