Speaking Up Against Sexist Comments

Years ago a group of attorneys were in my office to go over the cases being heard that day. A clerk came in to deliver a file to me. I thanked her and she left.

One of the attorneys – about a decade older than I was – followed her with his eyes as she walked out. “She’s a looker.”

“Please don’t. That’s not appropriate,” I told him.

“Yeah,” he said, winking at me, “but she’s pretty easy on the eyes, isn’t she Judge?”

“You need to leave and wait in the courtroom for your case to be called.”

He stared at me as if he hadn’t heard me correctly so I made it simple.

“Go to the courtroom. We’ll discuss your case on the record.”

He left, looking a bit confused. I could see it on his face: Why didn’t the judge join me in enjoying her good looks?

A short time later I called his case in the courtroom. Happily for his client, judges know how to separate an attorney’s personality from the merits of the case.

Canons to the right of me, canons to the left of me

My interaction with the attorney might seem abrupt, harsh even, to some. The reality is that in an office full of women and men waiting for me to spend time with them on their cases, I couldn’t do less than address his conduct promptly and directly. It’s what I had to do by law.

Canon 3B(3) of the Code of Judicial Conduct reads:

A judge shall require order and decorum in proceedings before the judge. (Emphasis added.)

This includes chambers conferences such as I was having that day as I prepared to call the cases on the record in court. Canon 3B(4) adds:

A judge shall be patient, dignified, and courteous to litigants, jurors, witnesses, lawyers, and others with whom the judge deals in an official capacity, and shall require similar conduct of lawyers and of all staff and court personnel under the judge’s direction and control. (Emphasis added.)

Again, this includes conduct in chambers as well as in the courtroom. Canon 3B(6) gets specific on the types of conduct prohibited as interfering with a judicial process that affords dignity to all:

 A judge shall require lawyers in proceedings before the judge to refrain from (a) manifesting, by words or conduct, bias, prejudice, or harassment based upon race, sex, gender, gender identity, gender expression, religion, national origin, ethnicity, disability, age, sexual orientation, marital status, socioeconomic status, or political affiliation … . (Emphasis added.)

But this is how I hope to conduct myself at all times, and not just because the judicial canons say so. It’s common decency. I hope it’s common in all I do.


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9 Responses to Speaking Up Against Sexist Comments

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  2. lucyjstone says:

    Tim, in a world where often I wonder if there are any genuinely upstanding Christian men who recognise and act on the challenges facing women daily, I’m always relieved and refreshed to read your posts. Thank you.

  3. Thanks Tim! Your stance is simple and refreshing, and such a contrast with the many men who are suddenly prompted by the Trump tape to tell the world (boast about?) how they don’t use locker room language themselves.

  4. Pastor Bob says:

    There are those who will cross the line quite innocently, thinking they have done nothing wrong, and nobody has ever brought this to their attention.
    Then there are those who refuse to believe that they have crossed the line, or do not care.
    Sounds like you encountered #2.
    As an educator, I can guarantee that your words had an impact. If he was wise he would have asked you later what transpired.

    This human existence, may the learning never stop, may the heart and head be open to what HE wants us to know.

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  6. I just wanted to add my word of thanks here as well.

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