Jesus Never Hit A Woman

A lot of the blogs I read are written by women. I learn from them, and since I’m a total egalitarian in my doctrine I have no hesitation doing so. These writers are not all egalitarian women, though. I’m an equal opportunity reader when it comes to egal/comp viewpoints. I want good writing, not one-note doctrine.

I’ve been told that showing up and commenting on these blogs encourages the writers. I can understand. I get stoked by the comments people leave on my own blog. Some of the bloggers, though, give me the impression I’m a bit more encouraging than they’re used to, particularly from a man. Perhaps it’s true.

Why might I be so encouraging? Frankly, I think it might be because Jesus never hit a woman.

Jesus and His Women

The Gospel accounts record a number of interactions between Jesus and women, not casual encounters but meaningful moments that not only brought the Light of the world into their lives but also give us examples of the deep love of God. Despite the expectations of the society around him – expectations that Jesus would disregard women, even shun them publicly – Jesus chose to honor and cherish these women as people made in his Father’s image.


Carl Heinrich Bloch’s “Woman at the Well”,  Wikipedia

There’s the Samaritan woman at the well, an outcast among her own people and a pariah to the Jews. But Jesus engages with her in a lengthy conversation, listening to her words and her heart, showing her that what she’s longed for all her life as she lived with one man after another could be found in him, the One she eagerly awaited as Messiah.

Another time, when a snobby religious leader rebuked Jesus for allowing a woman to caress his feet, Jesus gently honored her, comparing her acts favorably to the shortcomings of his host. The master of the house did not offer water for Jesus to wash his feet, but the woman wet them with her tears and dried them with her hair; he didn’t greet Jesus with a kiss, but the woman never stopped kissing Jesus’ feet; he did not honor Jesus with oil for his hair, but the woman poured costly perfume on Jesus’ feet and massaged it in. And Jesus sends her off with gentle words of peace and forgiveness. (See The Unwanted Woman at the Party.)

One woman wanted to be with Jesus so badly that she forced her way through a crowd that was hurrying him along to the home of a sick little girl they wanted him to heal. The woman just wanted to touch the hem of his robe, knowing that if she did she would be cured of the bleeding that had plagued her for twelve years. It worked immediately. Jesus stopped, the crowd surging around him. He called her to him, called her “Daughter”, and gently blessed her before continuing on his way.

And then there’s the woman who literally ended up owing Jesus her life. Caught in adultery, she’s thrown at Jesus’ feet where her accusers demand the ultimate punishment – being stoned to death – as much for judgment of her sin as to test Jesus’ orthodoxy. The fact he came to her defense might not have surprised her accusers. It’s what they wanted him to do so they could accuse him in turn. But the way he did it was unassailable:

When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground.


Pieter Brueghel’s “Christ and the Woman Taken in Adultery” Wikipedia

At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”

“No one, sir,” she said.

“Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.” (John 8:7-11.)

Jesus didn’t tell her to clean up her act before he’d forgive her. He didn’t even mention forgiveness with this woman. He just told her she’s free from condemnation.

It’s the way for all of us who belong to Jesus. We are all forever free from condemnation. (Romans 8:1.)

The world doesn’t treat women that way. In fact, many people in this world condemn women to a life of second-class status. And heaven help that woman if she’s a woman of color. How quickly women can fall from second- to third-class status or lower, condemned to less than full membership in society.

It’s an ungodly way to treat them.

So why do I spend time at women’s blogs, reading women writers, supporting women’s efforts to bring their insights and wisdom to their work in the kingdom of God? Why do I encourage them?

I’m just following the example of Christ.


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11 Responses to Jesus Never Hit A Woman

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  2. I don’t (as you know) hold to the idea that women are weaker vessels who can’t function without being protected by men — but I do think that the way a man speaks to or about women is very revealing and a good measure of character. Yesterday I saw how an outspoken woman who advocates for women’s equality was addressed on Twitter by a troll-y opponent: he was out-and-out mean, condescending, harsh, and unkind. And he’s a Christian in a position of power and leadership. Any Christian man who would communicate with a woman that way is NOT following the example of Jesus. I really appreciate how you support and respect women, Tim. It’s a unique ministry you have!

    • Tim says:

      It’s a ministry I enjoy immensely too, Jeannie. I love how God gives his people work that doesn’t feel at all like work sometimes.

  3. As a survivor of a 20-year marriage to a “Christian” verbal and emotional abuser, I would like to add that Jesus never verbally abused a woman either. And what he dished out to the legalists was not abuse, but righteous anger. While the church is quick to condemn physical abuse, it is profoundly inept when it comes to identifying and addressing other forms of abuse in its midst – including non-physical and sexual abuse.

    And personally I don’t have an issue with being the “weaker vessel.” The man to whom I married is a wise leader whom I have no difficulty following, if you will. As a good shepherd, a guardian and a provider, it is nice to be able to rest in and trust his leadership. Of course, we consult one another and pray for wisdom in our decision-making (and he trusts my instincts as much as I trust his) but I had to try to hold the reins for too many years and am content to not have that responsibility anymore. I could take over if necessary, but I admit that the complementary (considered a bad word in Christian circles these days) roles we fulfill work perfectly fine for us…

    Sometimes I think we throw the baby out with the bathwater.

    • Tim says:

      Cindy, you’ve touched on what I was hoping to get at too in using “hit” in both its literal and metaphorical sense in how Jesus treated women. Plus, your present marriage sounds wonderful to me.

  4. G&TandENT says:

    It is refreshing and, sadly, all too rare to read such gracious, open and loving support of women’s writing and ministry. Thank you for this, Tim – it encourages me as a woman even though you’re not writing about me, because it’s always nice to find a true ally. 🙂

  5. Pastor Bob says:

    The word I learned for the marriage relationship was inter-dependence.
    One CAN function without the other, but the two together is far better for each of them.
    Two sinners who can, will and do hurt each other, but as time moves on and maturity sets in, these happen less often, maturity and sensitivity causing fantastic growth.

    Casual contacts and conversation show who He is in our lives, almost by the minute. The bus driver who gets a warm greeting and says out loud that no one has done that to her before. The co-worker having a tough time of things receiving an almost perfect cup of home brewed coffee (not Starbucks) at work.

    As i read comments I saw His kindness to women, and men who really tried to be better. I cannot remember reading how any woman tried to trap him, but the men who did received what they had coming, but with more GENTLENESS than they deserved.

    I leave this by mentioning a ministry that helps those who have been hurt…..

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  7. Pingback: Matthew 9:18-26 – What others say about Jesus knowing how to care for people | Belgian Biblestudents - Belgische Bijbelstudenten

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