Yesterday in a Facebook group I commented on one of the posts. Someone interpreted my comment differently than I had meant it and assumed the worst. I didn’t respond. They then commented to me, “Sorry if you took offense at what I said.” She was sorry if I took her comment the wrong way, but apparently was not acknowledging that she might have actually said something in a way that could be taken as offensive.
I get it. She reminds me of me. You see, I mastered the non-apology decades ago back in college and used it as a weapon.
I don’t think that person yesterday was being malicious at all. Rather, it made me think of how far I’ve come from those college days when I could be quite malicious with my words. I’ve learned there is a better way.
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. (Ephesians 4:29.)
And while I am aware of this better way, I confess I do not always follow it. God is gracious to me, though, and I try to remember to live out his grace in how I speak to others.
I apologize if I don’t get it right.